A Lady of Reason Writes as a Secular Woman with Conservative Values
While reading through other blog posts, I recently discovered the blog of a woman who goes by the name A Lady of Reason. Taking a look at the about section of her blog, it says the following:
A Lady of Reason is a blog for women who are in the secular community as atheists, agnostics and non-religious but have socially conservative values. This might seem like a contradiction to some, as many who do hold more conservative views tend to do so from a religious standpoint. However, here at A Lady of Reason, we believe that beliefs in conservative values do not need religion to be justified.
I’ve since been following her blog and am very impressed with her content. I’ve been discouraged by the horrible advice that is being given to so many young women on a regular basis, especially by so called “women’s ministries” that profess to be giving advice from a conservative, Christian perspective (i.e. Allyson Rowe, Katie Emmerson, Girl Defined, etc.). While there are in fact some Christian/religious ministries that are giving good advice to young women, A Lady of Reason avoids much of the pseudo-spiritual sounding, emotional nonsense that typically accompanies Christian women’s ministries.
I invited A Lady of Reason to have a discussion about some of her views and the result was the below interview. I encourage all my viewers/readers to check out her blog.
My 2 Cents: Can you quickly introduce yourself to my subscribers? Briefly explain who you are and how you got into blogging.
A Lady of Reason: I go under the Pseudonym “A Lady of Reason” because due to the current Leftist vitriol, I must remain anonymous. I’ve been blogging on A Lady of Reason since Last December, so almost approaching a year now! I chose the name “A Lady of Reason” because I wanted to start a blog for women on conservative issues, especially women’s issues such as radical feminism and hook up culture. I thought the term “Lady” evokes a sense of the lost elegance and grace, as I often say, that women no longer seem to posses; that is, the manners and refined decorum of ladies in past eras. In this day and age of the “Nasty Woman”, I sought to create a place to advocate for women who don’t subscribe to radical feminism and want to be more like the ladies of past eras, who defined themselves as traditionally feminine. I chose “Reason” to describe them, as in my blog, I also wanted to touch upon deep and nuanced issues. I have a very intellectual personality, and feel that women can also embrace being deeply intellectual and can tackle big issues, all while being a traditional feminine woman in dress, values and behavior.
A reason why I started blogging about political and cultural issues geared toward fellow women was I already tried to start a more general blog on conservative issues, and have A Lady of Reason as a sister side blog, but I ultimately preferred to focus on this blog as my main blog. I thought there was a gap that I could fill, as many conservative blogs are for and written by people of faith, but I wanted to reach out to conservatives in the secular community and talk about conservative issues facing women in a non-religious way. Since launching my blog, many people of faith have followed and liked it, so now I can say my blog is geared towards all conservative women secular and religious. Also, since I’ve branched out to general conservative issues too, not just women’s, I welcome men as well as a demographic for my blog. I am amazed by how many views, likes, comments and wonderful networking I’ve made by like minded people who too, are fed up with the radical liberal climate of America.
My 2 Cents: Your blog states that you are blogging for secular women with conservative values. What led you to adopt the values that you currently hold?
A Lady of Reason: I never had much of a political identity until after Trump got elected. From a very young age, my parents and I talked about liberal bias in schools and in the media and society, and for that, I am ever so grateful and I’d probably be a snowflake now if they hadn’t been proactive in countering the brainwashing! However, politics never interested me that much. Even during the Obama years. I think what truly led to my own true political awakening, was watching the Left melt down over Trump during the campaign, and after he got in office, I saw how he is changing the nation for the better, and how the Left has gone into unprecedented meltdowns, vitriol and histrionics. Since this new atmosphere of hysteria has begun, I honestly was amused by their antics, and thus, follow them more closely. I’ve also been frustrated and angered at their vitriol and my eyes have opened more fully to how they are undermining the country with their so called “tolerance”!
For my social values, as I am predominantly a social conservative, I think I’ve just chose to adopt them. I’ve valued modesty since my teen years, and embraced traditionally feminine clothing from a young age. I’ve talked about with my dad especially, and studied on my own all the detriments of hook up culture and “any family is a real family” divorce culture. From personal experience, it shocked me how brainwashed many of my fellow classmates were in these issues, coming from broken homes and had hook ups, and how they reacted as if any opposing view point was anathema to them! As a secular person, see, I do not have a deity to fall back on, or holy text to tell me what to think in terms of values. No god is telling me my skirt must be X long, or I have to wait until marriage to have sex. However, I chose such values based on what I feel are objective, observable benefits to modesty, such as good, solid guys respecting and wanting women who dress modestly and don’t “advertise” themselves, or all the detriments of promiscuity, such as STD’s, unwanted assault, unwanted pregnancies etc… Better to wait until choosing a life partner for my two examples. In essence, I choose my values, which happen to be conservative based on their effectiveness in running a smooth society and wholesome lifestyle. Many of my conservative values agree with many people of faith, I just justify them in a different way. It’s funny to see my Leftist haters get confused, as they stereotype all conservatives as fundamentalist zealots with arbitrary morals! Like, a secular conservative literally does not compute in their brainwashed programming systems…
My 2 Cents: Do you think there are any legitimate aspects to feminism, or has the whole enterprise become a social justice nightmare?
A Lady of Reason: I think feminism, what it should be at least, is about gender EQUALITY, in the sense that both genders are equal in their dignity as human beings. The fallacy the feminists today fall into, is that women must be able to do everything a man can do to be “equal”. Which in reality, is actually an extremely sexist view! Modern feminism strongly implies women must be like men in order to be worth something. She must have a career, and wear pants, and act like a man such as being assertive in her nature in order to be “empowered”. The traditional feminine roles of gentleness, nurturing, care giving etc… are devalued, along with being a wife and mother and caring for family in the private sphere of life. A dress is oppressive and inconvenient, children are holding you back from being a “career woman”, a woman who is a homemaker is a domestic slave are messages of the radical feminist movement. A woman is empowered by having a more masculine sexuality, she must be able to sleep with as many guys as she pleases, and dress as provocatively as she wants, in order to be “empowered”. Gone are the days of women waiting for sex to be a milestone, instead of a handshake, or acting lady like in manner and values. The male is the ultimate standard women are now held to. Whatever he can do, she must do in order to be valued as an autonomous, empowered person. I’d say feminism has become the SJW nightmare! It also condescends women, as I’ll note further in your next question by making them into helpless victims in the event their new “empowered” stance requires personal responsibility for their unbridled actions.
My 2 Cents: It’s been my experience that too many women today believe they can make whatever decisions they want and not have to worry about consequences. Would you agree or disagree, and why do you think that is?
A Lady of Reason: I absolutely agree!!! MeToo is the perfect example! Women now want more sexual freedom, for example, but are unwilling to pay the price if it doesn’t go their way. Now, if they regret a hook up, they can blame it on the man, and say he raped her even if it was consensual, and everyone will believe her. The feminists can play up their feminine vulnerability stereotype when they want to and it suites them, while decrying it when it doesn’t. They can just cry “MeToo” and play victim for their fake allegations, as I’ve noted in detail on my blog in several articles. Also, women get away with casting themselves as victims of assaults when they did nothing to lessen their risk of victimization and everything to heighten it, such as sleazy clothes and unsafe behavior sending off signals you want sexual attention. Men aren’t mind readers, ladies! Don’t send off signals you want sexual attention if you don’t! Another example is divorce culture and broken families. The empowered woman now feels free to just divorce someone, without even thinking about her children’s well being! No! It’s all about her, and always the guy’s fault too! The radical feminist puts her own happiness in reliving being a young teen dating again after, without any thought to how she tore the very foundation of a stable childhood from her children, then treat them like the 3rd wheel from her trashed marriage. She then absolves herself of guilt by making her children feel guilty for wishing they had an intact family and their REAL father, not live in boyfriend #56… Feminism, on a related note, also excuses sub par parenting in this vein too. Mommy puts herself first now, not her kids, and avoids guilt over parenting mistakes at all costs, or else she’s oppressed in actually holding herself to high standards! Then again, motherhood is devalued as enslaving in the eyes of radical feminists! Personal responsibility has no place in their “don’t judge me” attitude, they can just play the poor oppressed woman card to get out of every mistake they make, in family matters, careers, parenting, sex, you name it! Casting women as little children, and helpless victims, while the antithesis of TRUE female empowerment, is done all the time to get out of the sticky situations they put themselves in by their own behavioral anarchy such as hook up culture for instance. As a side note, they demonize men, as someone has to be the perpetrator for them to be the victim! It’s the man’s fault I’m divorced, he coerced me, he assaulted me, he’s oppressing me by wanting a feminine woman etc.. etc… Saddest thing is: we as a society are buying into this con-job! So yes, they ARE getting away with it!
My 2 Cents: If you had to quickly summarize the best piece of advice you could give to young women and young men in the age of feminism what would it be?
A Lady of Reason: Don’t buy into the feminist lies!!! You are empowered, capable and strong women in your traditional feminine role! Don’t let anyone tell you you need to act like, dress like, and be a man in all but name in order to be worth something in life. You are just as needed in this world as a wife and a mother as in any job that could replace you. You also, are fully capable of being responsible for your actions. You are not a helpless victim, at the mercy of the “patriarchy”. You CAN say “NO!”. You can stand up for yourself. You are empowered to make choices such as preventative measures to lessen your chance of victimization, such as dressing modestly, not going down secluded spots, etc… Is this fair that women have to take extra precautions in life? NO! Is it fair we can’t just dress as sleazy as we like and still be safe? NO! But that’s reality. We must live with it and acknowledge it. Women can be ladies of elegance and grace in this culture of vulgarity, hook ups, and hysteria! The modern woman is not the “Nasty Woman”, she is one who is empowered to make her own choices, and empowered to take responsibility for the outcome of her choices. She is autonomous, and used her freedom wisely and responsibly. She is not under the thumb of a man, but freely chooses to love, cherish, value and serve the men in her life freely and out of love, not obligation. A true empowered woman, ladies, is one who takes pride in her womanhood, not in trying to be a copy of what a man is. Another important point: Speak up for fellow women who are pressured by the radical feminist agenda and show them it’s okay to be a feminine woman. Also, speak up for the men as in this culture of identity politics, a woman’s voice is far more powerful than a man’s on the subject of the flaws of feminism. Lastly, my strongest piece of advice is to THINK FOR YOURSELF! Don’t let the Left brainwash you into their sexist lies of what empowerment looks like…
And to young men: Stay strong!!!! I can’t emphasize this enough! You will be attacked, derided, even threatened for speaking the truth about how feminism hurts women, and of course, men! You will be called every vile thing, be accused of oppressing women, even being labeled a rape apologist! However, still speak out! Your opinions are not invalidated just because of your biological sex. A valid opinion is valid no matter who says it. It is not a “sin” to want a virtuous wife, who values elegance and grace, and is devoted to you, as you ought to be to her. You are not the servant in a relationship any more than the lady you date or marry is. You get to make choices, set boundaries, speak your mind as much as she does. I also advise you to embrace your manhood. It’s NOT toxic to be a man, despite the radical feminist propaganda! You should be the rock she leans on, to whom she looks to for protection, the guide for your future daughters in what to expect from men and how to treat men. You should cherish, honor, love and protect the women in your lives, and honor their feminine role as of equal worth, and they, equal in their dignity as human beings to you. Don’t be the “soyboy” we often hear about and the Left embraces. However, also realize women are human too, not just virtuous angles…. Women can, have and do lie about what happened “that night”. The advice to wait for sex in marriage is not just for the ladies mind you! You may not get pregnant, but you may get some one pregnant then be forced to pay child support, or be accused of a false assault! BE CAREFUL. Don’t ever doubt that it could happen to you! Make sure every liability is covered. Your life will be completely destroyed if you’re accused, even if proven innocent! Choose your women wisely… No matter how much the Left vilifies the traditional man though through radical feminism, keep staying strong, and stand up for your manhood as well!!!
Lastly to both: THINK FOR YOURSELVES!!!!
My 2 Cents: Excellent words of advice and thank you for agreeing to chat.
Again, I encourage everyone to check out A Lady of Reason. As I’ve noted in all discussions I’ve been involved in, the fact that I endorse her blog does not necessarily mean I always agree with everything she says, but I can say with confidence that she is giving good advice that will lead to successful living if followed, especially for young women.
I’d like to thank her again for having this discussion, and that is My 2 Cents. So take it for what it’s worth.
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